10 Things I’ve Learned in the Last Six Months (Part 2)

October 31, 2013 — Leave a comment

This is part 2 of a two-part series, continued from yesterday’s post.



5. That I Am An Entrepreneur

entrepreneur |ˌäntrəprəˈno͝or, -ˈnər|noun: a person who organizes and operates a business or businesses, taking on greater than normal financial risks in order to do so.

Six months ago, I left a good-paying, salaried job for a role on commission that demanded experience I had no proven track record for. I was crazy and so were they. But it was a calculated risk. I took other calculated risks several times during the last six months.

One could argue that the risks ultimately failed, but I would beg to differ. I learned that I would do it again and again. What do you know? I am an entrepreneur.
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4. The Power of Trust

In my own life, I’m blessed to have many friends, but there are only a few that I allow in deep enough to trust implicitly. You are probably the same way. Why is this? It’s because trust in a relationship is like drilling for oil: it’s a precious resource that you can only gain by digging down deep.

In the last six months, I saw my team trust me more deeply than any team I have ever been a part of. The fact that I am 1,500 miles away from them had some to do with this, as does the fact that I was filling a sales role with no sales experience. But mainly, because they knew me, they knew I was a Linchpin.

They knew that I am someone who leads, inspires, creates, and connects people in such a way as to be indispensable and thereby turn each day at work into a kind of art. Once you feel that way about someone, your role becomes about how you can best set them free to work their magic. To me, this was incredibly freeing.

I was also blessed enough to be able to come alongside some pretty great clients who trusted me to help them improve what they do on the web. The result is a lot of work that I am pretty proud of and a deeply renewed appreciation for the value of trust.

3. To Trust Myself More

Speaking of trust, the last six months have taught me much about trusting my own instincts, experience, and intuition. This is especially true when it comes to reading people. Whether it’s about relationships, a client’s mindset, or a product, I have found that my gut is right more often than not, and this is a huge confidence builder that I did not anticipate. Best of all, it gives me tremendous confidence, moving forward.

2. To Trust God Most

God promises that He will work all things together for my good (Romans 8:28). Even when things appear dark, He is not only in control, but He ordains the darkness and uses it to accomplish His purpose. As my pastor, Randy Pope, put it last week, there’s not a thing that can happen to me that does not first pass through His loving, powerful hands.

The last six months has been a hairy, wild ride, but it has given me more reason to trust God than I have ever had. I am so grateful for that.

1. That I Don’t Have to Be Afraid to Fail

I don’t think there is any more powerful negative motivator in my life than the fear of failure. Many things in my life can be traced back to this. I don’t want to let people down. I don’t want people to think I am dumb. Or needy. Or weak. Or…whatever.

But there is something very powerful behind the idea of not being afraid to fail. These last six months have pushed me far outside my comfort zones, and the result–– every time––has been a reduction in my fear of failure.

In fact, one thing I have seen demonstrated is a willingness to fail in order to become better. The christian life is so much like this. I have seen so many times that I learn most from the times I fail. And it seems that the times I fail the hardest produce the best, most enduring lessons. I love how God meets me in those dark moments and lovingly restores my life.

What that teaches me is that while I never have to like a failed venture or a social blunder or poor decision, I don’t have to fear it. I don’t have to spend so much energy avoiding anything that resembles failure. Instead, I can look forward to the incredible opportunity to learn from those mistakes.

Hayden Wreyford

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Hayden is a storyteller, musician, designer, Apple fanboy, and genuine people-person. Never one to sit still for long, he mixes serious creativity with a logical side and a desire to leave things better than how he found them. He's been known to keep the room laughing with an impression or quick one-liner, and is proud to hail from suburban Atlanta with his beautiful wife and two young boys. You can follow him on Twitter and Google+

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